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Celebrating Marriage

IMG_0085My husband and I celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary in May!  As I think about being married to him over the last 25 years, I like this Bible verse, “…I found the one my heart loves…,” (Song of Songs 3:4 NIV).

I feel like we have been celebrating marriage a lot around here over the last year.  My daughter and her husband got married last summer and since that time two of my cousins and one of my nieces have gotten married.  And one of my nephews will be married very soon.

All of that means that I have been having fun giving bridal showers over the last year and sharing about marriage, which I have shared some of here on my blog.  If you missed them, here are the links to three of the posts:

https://lorischulz.wordpress.com/2013/03/26/communication-mishap/

https://lorischulz.wordpress.com/2013/03/10/seeing-spots/

https://lorischulz.wordpress.com/2012/08/31/making-a-marvelous-marriage-now-and-later/

But not only are we celebrating marriages around here, we’re also celebrating wedding anniversaries.  My daughter and her husband celebrated their first anniversary in June, my husband and I celebrated our 25th anniversary in May, and my parents will celebrate their 50th anniversary very soon.  So in honor of celebrating marriage, let’s have some fun!

Maybe you’ve only been married for a short time.  You could share about how you met or what it was that you really liked about your spouse before you were married.  Or maybe you’ve been married for a while like my husband and me.  You could share a fun story about your marriage.  Or maybe you have been married for a long time like my parents.  You could share some wisdom with us.

First I’ll share some short thoughts for each one of those and then it will be YOUR turn!

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It’s going to seem silly when you read this, but here is how my husband and I met and what I liked about him.

I remember when I first saw my husband.  We were at a family camp with our church.  At the beginning of the camp, they had the families that had not previously attended this camp go up to the stage at the front.  Then they invited the other families to choose a new family and invite them to have dinner with them to make them feel welcome.  That was when I saw him.  He was on the stage with his family and he was very cute.  I leaned over to my dad and told him that that tall boy with the blonde hair was really cute and asked my dad to choose that family to have dinner with.  My dad tried, but another family got the dinner.  However, my parents invited them to have dinner with us anyway.  That was when I met my future husband.  (Thanks, Mom and Dad!)  We were in high school then and we’ve been together ever since.  And he still is very cute!  Yep, that’s what I liked about him at first.  But now I know him better and he is a man that I respect so much.  I’m very glad to be his wife.

So, how did you meet your spouse?  What was it that drew you to him or her?

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Now I’ll share a story about marriage.  I don’t know why this one came to mind – we have so many stories – but here it is.

One day a few years ago while we were eating dinner, my daughter observed something and shared it out loud.  She was a teenager at the time and we have two boys also.  I have no idea what the conversation was, but I remember what she said.  She noticed my husband and me discussing something, probably about something one of the kids wanted to do, I don’t really know, but she said, “You two talk to each other with your eyes.”  She was right.  We couldn’t discuss out loud whatever we wanted to say at the time, but that didn’t keep us from “talking” with each other!

I’d love to hear your stories about being married!

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Now it’s time for some marriage wisdom.  I enjoy reading books about marriage and learning more every day.  It’s great to have a good marriage!  One bit of wisdom that I think is really good for everyone is remembering to forgive.  My husband and I attended the FamilyLife “Love Like You Mean It Marriage Cruise” a few years ago.  It was so much fun and we can’t wait to have the opportunity to go again sometime.  On the cruise we listened to several speakers and I sat there thinking that I wished someone had told us those things 20 years ago because we had to learn them all on our own.  Kirk Cameron and his wife, Chelsea, were two of the speakers.  Chelsea spoke about forgiveness.  She said that when we don’t forgive, we keep that person in that place of where they did something wrong.  They don’t want to be kept there.  They want to be forgiven and change and be the person that they really want to be.  We need to forgive them so that we both can move on.  I have a wonderful husband, but we all need forgiveness.  I’m glad that my husband is quick to forgive me!  After that cruise we were able to attend one of FamilyLife’s “Weekend to Remember” Couple’s Getaways.  What a fun time!  My other bit of wisdom is for everyone to attend that weekend.  The weekend getaways are held in many cities and you can even attend as an engaged couple.  My husband and I sent our daughter and son-in-law before they were married and they said that they were given a lot of great information to help make their marriage strong.

So, what is your bit of marriage wisdom?

I’m looking forward to reading your stories as we celebrate marriage!

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Seeing Spots?

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Have you been seeing spots lately?  You know, spots.  Those things that your spouse has done wrong or that just annoy you and you keep thinking about.  Guess what?  The Bible has something to say about that.

I like how God starts out the Bible with telling us how He created the whole world.  In Genesis chapter one we read on the first day that God said, “Let there be light,” and there was light and we go on and read what He made on that first day.  Then at the end of that day God said, “It is good.”  Then we can continue reading and see what He made on the second day and at the end of that day God said, “It is good.”  And it continues on through the third day, the fourth day and the fifth day.  But on the sixth day it is different.  We read about what God made and learn that God made people.  He made Adam and Eve.  Then He married them.  And at the end of that day God said, “It is very good.”  So we know that marriage was God’s idea and He planned for it to be very good.

But sometimes we can feel like our marriage is not “very good.”  That’s because when we get married, we marry a human being.  A person.  And the thing about people is that we make mistakes, we say things that hurt other people’s feelings, we annoy each other and we just mess up.  The problem is when we focus on those things that our spouse has done wrong, that mistake that they made or that misunderstanding that we had and we forget about all the good things about them.

So what do we do?  How do we stop seeing spots?

It’s always a good idea to look to God, especially for wisdom on things that He created – like marriage.  First Corinthians 13 has become known as “the love chapter” because it’s about love.  God’s love.  That’s a great place to go to find out how God loves and also how to love other people.  It says things like “love is patient,” “love is kind,” “love always protects,” and this, “Love does not keep a record of wrongs.”  Now that is some good wisdom for when we start to focus on that wrong thing.  When all we see is that spot.  We need to remember to forgive and to think about all the good things about our spouse.  I know there are a lot of good things to think about!

I like an illustration that I heard a while ago on FamilyLife.  What if we got together and I showed up wearing a shirt with a spot on it.  A small stain.  What would you be thinking of me?  You’d probably be thinking something like, “Oh, what a slob!” or “Why didn’t she put on a clean shirt?  She must not care about me.”  You would be focusing on that small stain – that spot.  But imagine that shirt again.  There is only a small stain on it.  So really most of the shirt is great.  And that is what we should be focusing on – the 99% of the shirt that is really very nice.  Then we can say, “Oh, what a great person!” and “They really have been kind to me.  I know they care about me.”

And then we will stop seeing spots and we will be able to say about our marriage, “It is very good.”  Just the way God planned it.